Or Should I Say NOT Pushing?!
This Birth Secret has everything to do with the uterus. When you understand the uterus you never have to worry about pushing again. You know, in the movies and in real life, how the Dr.s are always counting down for birthing women… 1, 2, 3, PUSH! Did you know that the only reason they know when to count down is the external fetal monitor that is strapped to your contracting abdomen? The monitor (they might use an internal fetal monitor too either way its still the same) tells them when you are having a contraction. Yep. They monitor your uterus to tell you when to push. You do not need a monitor to tell you when you are having a contraction (unless you are all drugged up/have an epidural). They need monitors. You do not.
You do not need to push for hours to get the baby out. The more energy you focus on pushing is less energy you have to focus on getting through the contractions. You do not need to push AT ALL (unless you are all drugged up/have an epidural). Let me explain a few things about the uterus…
is your birthing muscle
The uterus is a muscle. There are 3 terms that describe this muscle. The fundus – the top of the uterus. This term is mostly used when measuring uterine growth. The body of the uterus. The cervix – the end of the uterus.
The muscles of the body of the uterus are vertical in formation. The muscles of the cervix, or the bottom of the uterus form horizontally.
When the uterus contracts, the vertical muscles of the body pull the horizontal muscles of the cervix around/over the baby’s presenting part (usually the head). The muscles of the lower uterus (the cervix) are horizontal in formation to allow them to hold when they need to hold and then to be pulled and stretched horizontally for birth.
The contractions push the baby out. Not you. DO NOT focus your energy on pushing. The more you push the more tired you will get. The uterus is your pushing muscle. The uterus will push the baby out for you. You just need to allow the contractions to work. Focus your energy on getting through the contractions. Let them do the work. Let the body of the uterus pull the muscles of the cervix up and over your baby’s head. Let you uterus do the squeezing. Let your uterus do it’s job.
There is no need to push or worry about pushing. Your body will do it. There is no controlling the uterus. It is beyond you. It is BIRTH. The body of the uterus is meant to squeeze and pull the muscles of the cervix open. The more forcing and pushing you do just makes everything harder. You literally can not push the baby out. The uterus is the ONLY muscle that can do the job. Stop. Breath. Let go and try not to push. Let your uterus push. Your hips will involuntarily flex when it is time to evacuate the child within.
Talk to your care provider. Say hey, I really want to let my uterus do the work. What are your rules on pushing? I want to wait til the LAST minute to do any pushing. Talk to your care provider because, guess what??!! They know! They know all about the uterus. If they know that you know what is going on they will trust you and let your uterus work. When you know their rules you will trust them. When both parties are trusting the uterus, trusting birth, there is no fear. Just trust. But, it starts with you girl. You have to trust yourself, trust your uterus, trust birth. Your uterus will squeeze your baby, pull the cervix over the baby’s head, and involuntarily flex your hips and evacuate the uterus. Birth is meant to be.